Monday, March 21, 2016

How have pharmaceutical companies corrupted medical literature?

Physicians, pharmacists, nurses, lawyers, administrators, policy makers and many others depend on medical journals for information.  As the best clinical outcomes are sought for each patient; evidence based practice is the standard.

Physicians look to medical journals for up to date, accurate information about current medications and treatment options.  Peer-reviewed journals containing double blinded randomized control trials are the gold standard, with a meta-analysis of those trials being the best evidence.

Prescribers make medication choices based on the published literature, their personal experience, and the experiences of their patients. 

What if our medical literature is being unduly influenced and altered by those with financial gains at stake?
What if throughout the process of testing and approving and marketing new medications, pharmaceutical companies are altering the information prescribers receive?

This article will discuss 7 stages at which biased and false information has already been and still may be introduced into medical literature.
  1. Data Ownership
  2. Drug Trial Design
  3. Data Analysis
  4. Ghostwriting Articles
  5. Publication Bias/Omitted Information
  6. Journal Reprints
  7. Advertisements in Journals


STAGE 1: Data Ownership 



Problem: Drug trials are often designed to ensure that the resulting data are owned by the pharmaceutical company and are never made available to clinical research sites, prescribers, or the public. 

Example: In Denmark, 44 industry-initiated randomized trials were approved in 1994-1995 by the Scientific-Ethical Committee for Copenhagen and Frederiksberg.  
There were constraints on the publication rights in 40 (91%) of the protocols. 22 (50%) noted that the sponsor either owned the data, needed to approve the manuscript, or both. None of these constraints were stated in any of the trial publications.

Problem: In the competition for research funds, American academic institutions are likely to compromise ethical standards, granting data ownership and more to pharmaceutical companies.

Example: In a survey of 107 American medical schools it was found that 80% would allow a multicenter trial agreement that granted data ownership to the sponsor. 69% of the administrators said that the competition for research funds created pressures on them to compromise the conditions of the contract.
This leads to the following problem, found in a second survey of American medical schools: In a survey of 108 American medical schools it was found that “Academic institutions routinely engage in industry-sponsored research that fails to adhere to ICMJE (International Committee of Medical Journal Editors) guidelines regarding trial design, access to data, and publication rights.”

When drug trials are pre-designed to grant data ownership, analysis, and manuscript approval to the industry sponsor, the potential for biased publications escalates.


STAGE 2: Drug Trial Design


Problem: In head to head drug trials, the standard medication may be dosed or administered incorrectly, making the new drug look better by faulty comparison.

Many drug trials are designed to compare a new medication to the current standard medication.  If the standard medication is dosed incorrectly, or administered in the wrong way, efficacy may decrease.  In a head to head comparison, this can lead to the incorrect conclusion that the new medication is better because it had higher efficacy than the standard medication.

Example: Prior to FDA approval of Voriconazole, a study was designed to compared Voriconazole to Amphotericin B in the treatment of invasive aspergillosis:

277 patients were randomized into the two treatment groups and completed the trial.  The standard dosing and route of administration was followed:
  • IV Voriconazole for 7 days, then oral medication.
  • IV Amphotericin B

However the length of treatment was substantially different for the two groups.
  • The median duration of voriconazole treatment was 77 days.
  • The median duration of amphotericin B treatment was 10 days.

With the new medication (Voriconazole) being given for an additional 67 days it is not surprising that the conclusion stated: “Initial therapy with voriconazole led to better responses and improved survival and resulted in fewer severe side effects than the standard approach of initial therapy with amphotericin B.”

STAGE 3: Data Analysis


Problem: Data analysis is often controlled by the industry sponsor and data are often manipulated in favor of the new drug.
Example: When trial endpoints are changed or modified, it is impossible to know if new drugs met their goals.  A 2011 Study analyzed all Randomized Control Trials published in 6 medical journals over a 2 year period (2008-2010).  The journals selected were: New England Journal of Medicine, Lancet, JAMA, Annals of Internal Medicine, BMJ, Archives of Internal Medicine. Out of 2,592 original articles which were reviewed, only 316 reported a pre-specified primary endpoint. We don’t know what the other 2,276 trials were hoping to prove when they started the trial. Only the sponsoring drug company and the FDA likely have that information.  
Of the 316 studies that stated their pre-determined endpoint, 116 (37%) ended up reporting a surrogate primary endpoint and 106 (34%) used a composite primary endpoint.
Surrogate and composite endpoints do not always represent findings that are clinically or statistically significant.
Also, of the 118 trials in which the primary endpoint involved mortality: 32 (27%) used disease-specific mortality rather than all-cause mortality. Thus we do not the cause of death of many patients who died during the trials, whether they were disease related or not.
These data manipulations were found to be more common in drug industry sponsored trials. 
Trials which were exclusively industry sponsored were 16% more likely to use surrogate endpoints than trials which had mixed funding or non-industry funding.
Industry funded trials were also 23% more likely to only report disease specific mortality endpoints.

STAGE 4: Ghostwriting Articles


Problem: Ghostwriting.  When you don’t know who wrote an article you cannot judge the content by the author’s expertise or ethics.

Example: From 1999-2001, 96 journal articles were published about sertraline (Zoloft). Over half of the articles were prepared by one medical writing agency named Current Medical Directions. Their 55 articles were all positive in their portrayal of Zoloft, and only 2 of them acknowledged writing support from people not listed as authors.  Who analyzed the data?  Who wrote the bulk of the text?  Who made the conclusions? We don’t know.  These potentially ghost-written articles were published in well-respected journals such as JAMA (Journal of the American Medical Association), JAACAP (Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry), and Archives of Family Medicine.  The articles written by CMD had, on average, a higher impact factor as well as higher citation rates than the other 41 articles. 

Problem: Articles are often prepared based on a researcher’s study, and then sent to the researcher for their approval, listing the researcher as the author. 

Example: Dr. David Healy had performed research on anti-depressants.  He received an email from a drug company representative stating “In order to reduce your workload to a minimum, we have had our ghostwriter produce a first draft based on your published work. I attach it here.”
The article listed Dr. Healy as the sole author, yet he hadn’t written a single word.  He did not agree with their “glowing review of the drug” and he suggested some changes.  The drug company replied stating that he had missed some 'commercially important' points. The ghostwritten paper was later published in a psychiatric journal in its original form - under another doctor's name.


STAGE 5: Publication Bias/Omitted Information


Problem:  Critical information is often not published.

Example: When research misconduct occurs, it is not mentioned in journal articles based on those flawed studies.
Every year, the FDA inspects several hundred clinical sites performing biomedical research on human subjects. When they find evidence of research misconduct, they publish it in a report on their website. From 1998-2013, the FDA identified 57 clinical trials with serious problems including falsification of data, protocol violations,  and failure to protect the safety of patients.
Those 57 Trials led to 78 Publications.  Only 3/78 publications (4%) mentioned the objectionable conditions or practices found during the inspection.  No corrections, retractions, expressions of concern, or other comments acknowledging the key issues identified by the inspection were subsequently published.

Problem: If a study’s results are unfavorable to a new drug, they are often not published, leading to a publication bias in favor of the new medication.

Example: A search for all studies performed on 12 antidepressants found 74 trials registered with the FDA.  37 trials showed positive results for the antidepressant and all but one of them were published.  One trial had neutral results.  The other 36 studies showed negative or questionable results from the antidepressants.  22 of them were not published, 11 were published in such a way as to make the outcome appear positive, and only 3 were published showing the negative results.
Only Published Trials

Thus, in the published literature, 94% of antidepressant trials showed positive results.  By contrast, FDA analysis of all antidepressant trials showed that only 51% were positive.  It should also be noted that 3,449 study participants never had their data published.



 Including Unpublished Trials

     

STAGE 6: Journal Reprints


Problem: Medical Journals can earn higher profits if they publish pharmaceutical industry sponsored papers.  This gives an incentive to give those papers preferential treatment.

Example: Medical Journals make money of journal publications and reprints.  Journals which publish a study funded by the pharmaceutical industry have higher numbers of reprints ordered.
In a study looking at reprint orders, Papers funded by the pharmaceutical industry were more likely to have reprints ordered than were control papers (odds ratio of 8.64.)  Even if a study was only partially funded by pharmaceutical companies it was still more likely to be re-ordered, (odds ratio of 3.72).
This matters because there is substantial money to be made off reprints.
In a study of income from reprints, it was found that The BMJ made £12 ,458 on average for a reprint order.  Lancet earned £287,353 per reprint order.11

STAGE 7: Advertisements in Journals


Problem: Drug advertisements in Medical Journals are often misleading or inaccurate.
Example: In 1992, Annals of Internal Medicine examined the accuracy of advertisements in 10 medical journals.  They found 109 full page pharmaceutical advertisements. The ad and the cited source were sent to three reviewers, (2 physicians in the field and a clinical pharmacist).  They concluded that 34% of advertisements required major revisions and 28% should not have been published.
Example: A 2003 study published in Lancet analyzed all advertisements for anti-hypertensives or lipid lowering agents in 6 medical journals for a period of one year.   Out of 287 advertisements, only 125 listed at least one reference.  18% of those references could not be found.  44% of the references did not support the statement in the advertisement.

DISCUSSION


"Medical journals are an extension of the marketing arm of the pharmaceutical companies" according to Richard Smith who worked for 13 years as editor of The BMJ (British Medical Journal).

The deeper we dig the more evident it becomes that our medical literature is not as pure or objective as we might wish to believe.  Often our journals are just another form of advertising.  This is not limited to journals with small circulation numbers or case reports only.  The most well respected journals with the highest circulation including NEJM, JAMA, BMJ, Lancet, and others have all suffered bias from pharmaceutical companies.

The potential for bias is evident from the very beginning of the process.  From the initial design of drug trials, contractual agreements ensure that the results will be owned and analyzed only by the sponsoring company.  While they must register the trial with the FDA, they are under no obligation to publish the results of their study.  Papers can be written by anyone.  Ghostwriters are commonly employed by pharmaceutical companies to prepare positive papers which will then be published under a researcher’s name.  While this may have some valid benefits, such as freeing up time for the researcher to continue his/her work, it is disingenuous.  The data are only as good as the person analyzing and explaining them.  If we don’t know the true credentials of the author, nor their financial interests, how can we judge the validity of their findings?

The same is true of journal editors.  How can we judge the contents of a journal when there is financial incentive to publish pharmaceutical sponsored papers.

Pharmaceutical companies can do excellent, valid research and bring good medications to the market. Authors can be trustworthy, journal editors can be ethical and discerning, advertisements can be accurate.

However, often these things don’t occur.  Physicians and hospitals spend thousands of dollars subscribing to medical journals.  A subscription to one database of medical literature can cost up to $500 per year. 

Patients are told by advertisements to “Ask your doctor.”  When they do, they are seeking their physicians informed, educated opinion.  Is that opinion based on evidence and fact?  Or is it based on a paper that was published for financial gain, after being ghostwritten by an unknown author, based on a study which was analyzed to skew results, from data which are proprietary and cannot be re-examined, with a protocol that was altered or not followed in the first place.

Physicians are required to give all patients “informed consent.”  If the data are that suspect, is there really any such thing?

 - written by Matt Larsen D.O. (References to all studies and quotes are available)

Friday, January 22, 2016

Label Things, Not People



I'm a doctor.  I should label a disease, Schizophrenia.  I should not label a person.  A schizophrenic.

We put people into groups, classes, designations.
I try to follow the advice of the Arbinger Institute when they said “Don’t lump the people you’re thinking about into an impersonal mass. Think of individuals…Think of the people.”

It’s a problem I have every day.  I’m a psychiatrist, and every day I am asked to label people.  I am asked to diagnose them and treat them.  Patient #1 has Schizophrenia, #2 has Borderline Personality Disorder, etc…  It’s very easy to change and say Patient #1 IS Schizophrenic, #2 IS Borderline. 

It’s easy to “stop seeing them as people and just see them as a diagnosis.  If I can do that then I can stop worrying about them, and their lives, and their feelings.  I can treat their stated symptoms and go home.  I don’t have to worry about their visitors, their comfort, their real needs or anything. This way is easier.  It’s simpler.  I could just slap a label on them and go home.

Some therapists would tell me to never use the word “patient” but rather “client.”

I still use the term patient because I think mental illness is an illness.  I don’t think my patients are illnesses, I think they have illnesses,

I once read a book called Crucial Conversations”

The author said “Labeling is putting a label on people or ideas so we can dismiss them under a general stereotype or category… By employing a handy label, we are now dealing not with a complex human being, but with a bonehead.”

I still make this mistake with people every day.  I am a conservative independent, which means I usually agree with the republicans and disagree with the democrats – I’m just sick of political parties so I refuse to be a republican.

When one of my facebook friends wrote a post about “Plan B” for birth control, my autopilot conservative mind kicked – yep, that’s abortion, that’s murder, that’s wrong.  The friend posting must be a bleeding heart liberal.  She probably has never stopped to consider any opinion other than her own.  She must be blinded by her partisan and left wing ideation.  To quote the book – she must be “a bonehead.”

I labeled her.  I discounted her as a “liberal” and that meant I no longer had to consider anything she said as “valid.”  She was part of an “extreme” group, and everything about her must be wrong, tainted, misled, etc…  Forget the fact that she is one of the smartest people I knew in High school, she is now an OB/GYN, she is well read and stays current, and one of the most caring people I know. Luckily she did not instantly label me as a bonehead conservative.  She took time, assumed I was an intelligent human being, and she explained her views, and the reasoning behind it.  My viewpoint changed.  Not only did my view of the subject change, but my view of her changed.  She was once again a person, not a “bonehead liberal.”



It goes beyond politics.  This labeling and dismissing happens everywhere

In the book The Anatomy of Peace, the authors state:  "Lumping everyone of a particular race or culture or faith into a single stereotype is a way of failing to see them as people…we have a propensity to demonize others.  One way we do this is by lumping others into lifeless categories – bigoted whites, lazy blacks, crass Americans, arrogant Europeans, violent Arabs, manipulative Jews, and so on.  When we do this we make masses of unknown people into objects and many of them into our enemies."

Do those labels sound like presidential politics to anyone else?  I hear labels like: Socialist, Rich snob, Flip-Flopper, Baby-killer, Flaming Liberal, fascist, Tax-evader, Communist, Right Wing Hack, etc…

"Let's tell people he's not American."  "Let's tell people she's not Christian." -  It seems all the political parties want to do is find a label that scares people, then make it stick to the other side’s candidate.

Labels and stereotypes are killing us.   They allow us to ignore people, to write them off.  They allow us to dehumanize everyone who doesn’t agree with us.

We must see people as people, anything less is just plain wrong.
Start with language.  Stop defining people by some small aspect of their life.

I was born male, I was born white, and 75 years after I was born, I’ll be Old.

Suddenly, by being born, I just became the enemy of some of my democratic friends: and Old White Man.  The evil overlord of politics and business and religion, an old white male.

It is true that I will be an old white man.  But I will not JUST be an old white man.  I will be so much more, in every possible way.  You cannot know who I am by knowing my race, my religion, my birthplace, or even my diagnosis.

Ever heard people say “She’s so Bipolar, He’s ADD, She’s Borderline, He’s Schizophrenic, She’s Anorexic, He’s OCD, she’s an addict?

That doesn’t sound like labeling problems to be fixed.  That sounds like labeling people, because they ARE the problem, so we can dismiss them.

What did President Obama see when campaigning across the country 8 years ago?
He said: “Spend time actually talking to Americans, and you discover that most evangelicals are more tolerant than the media would have us believe, most secularists are more spiritual. Most rich people want the poor to succeed, and most of the poor are both more self-critical and hold higher aspirations than the popular culture allows.”

So that’s Step One: Label Things, Not People. That’s our job.  To notice how many times we label people, even if it’s only in our heads.  Then work to see them as a complex individuals, not a stereotype.

Thursday, September 17, 2015

Why Less Than 1/3 of Your Life is Happy

Most Psychologists agree that we have 9 basic feelings:
  1. Joy
  2. Fear
  3. Anger
  4. Shock
  5. Love
  6. Disgust
  7. Sadness
  8. Guilt
  9. Curiosity
Go back through the list and count how many of those are "good" feelings.

Most people pick 2 or 3: Joy and Love, and sometimes Curiosity.

Most people consider Fear, Anger, Shock, Disgust, Sadness and Guilt to be negative or "bad" feelings.

Well, let's assume you're a normal person and in an average day you feel most of these emotions, and in about equal amounts.  If 6/9 or 7/9 of them are BAD then you can only spend 1/3 of your life feeling GOOD.  

If you live 75 years like most Americans, then you are going to spend every moment of an entire 50 years feeling BAD.

That leaves what, 25 good years?  Most people think of their childhood as pretty good, and sometimes up to their mid-twenties, so that means most of the good times are behind you.   So I guess most of you can look forward to the next 50 years of constantly feeling BAD, and then you'll die.

(I really should end this blog post here, just leave everything BAD)

What if there were no "good emotions" and no "bad emotions."  What if emotions were just, well, emotions?  They were something to be felt.  That's it.  

What if none of them were bad, what if they were all just meant to serve a purpose and move us forward, all in their own time.

The writers of the Disney movie "Inside Out" understood this. They chose 5 emotions for the movie, Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger and Disgust.  

Joy was the only "good" emotion. She tried to control the mind all the time.  She thought that if JOY could be the only emotion ever felt, then life would be perfect.  She worked really really REALLY hard to make sure sadness never took control.  Sadness couldn't touch the mind, or the memories.

In fact, in the movie, Joy eventually made Sadness promise never to do anything or affect anything by staying inside a circle she drew on the ground.

Joy was caught in the happiness trap. She thought that sadness was BAD, and anger was BAD.

She didn't realize until the end of the film, that sadness is necessary.  Sadness helps us apologize and fix relationships. Anger helps us protect what's important in our lives when it is threatened.

Emotions aren't good or bad.  The only way we should measure good v. bad is "Are we doing what matters to us?  Are we living according to our beliefs, our values?"  If we value family, are we doing what matters to make our family succeed?  If anger and sadness and love and joy and guilt and fear all help us live our values, then they are all worth it.  

We don't WANT to feel them all.  We are instead, willing to feel them all because we WANT to make our family succeed.  

If you keep labeling emotions as "good and bad" or "acceptable and unacceptable" then you are guaranteed to have a BAD and UNACCEPTABLE life at least 2/3rds of the time.

Let yourself out of the box.  Don't be chained to a life of misery by thinking you have to feel joy all the time for life to be "good."  Statistically, almost 90% of your life will not be "joy"ful.  

When you accept all 9 emotions, and make them all useful, then 100% of your life can be worthwhile, and push you further down the path you want to go, living the life you want to live.

That is TRUE Happiness.

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Is Your Life Filled With Darkness? Come Unto Christ


How many of us have begged and prayed and pleaded to be comforted?
How many of us have felt just like M. Lowrie Hofford who penned the words:

Savior, stay this night with me;
Lone will be the night If I cannot commune with thee nor find in thee my light.
Savior, stay this night with me; Or the darkness of the world, I fear, would in my home abide.

Have you been there?
I imagine most of us have, some of us in ways we’ll never share.  It’s too dark, too painful.


I remember the birth of my oldest, Emma.  I was so in love, and so very ignorant. I had taken the classes, taken child development, and had been raised by amazing parents and had married an amazing wife, what could go wrong?
Somehow, I had ignored or missed everything anyone ever told me about sleep deprivation.
After 3 weeks of sleepless nights in my parents basement, working days as an intern at the INL, while trying to prepare to move to Iowa to start medical school in a few weeks, I finally got it.
When I was sitting there at 2 a.m. trying to let my exhausted wife sleep and keep my daughter from awaking my parents, I finally reached that point.  I finally understood how parents can see it as a reasonable option to make sure the pacifier stays in the babies mouth, by tying it around their head.
That’s insane by the way – the risk of suffocation is enormous.  But just like shaken baby, and all the other horrific things that can happen, I found myself in that moment, understanding those parents.
That’s when I put my baby down in the crib, closed the door, went to the far corner of the house, and fell asleep.  I knew that at that moment, the best thing I could do as a parent for my baby, was sleep.  Anything else I might do would only make things more dangerous.  She was safe, in her crib, fed and changed, and still screaming like a banshee.

At that moment, I felt I was there – I was in the darkness, and I couldn’t get out by myself.  I couldn't do it alone.  I needed Christ.

I remember “getting to that point” as a missionary.

Our mission did not use Elders as Branch President’s, so imagine my surprise when I got the call.  A small city was having serious problems. Two branches with total membership on the records of 500, were meeting as one branch, and only had 19 people in attendance.  There was also a question of tithing funds going missing, and many other concerns.

So I was called as Branch President and my companion was Elder’s Quorum President.
Our companionship was not a success.
I was very rigid in my interpretation of the rules.  And when he watched movies and played video games and called his girlfriend on the phone, and wanted to spend all day hanging out at one members home with their 19 year old daughter, I had serious problems, and we has serious arguments.
We were called to serve a branch, to revitalize, reactivate, baptize, and teach by the spirit.
We had some success.
Attendance got as high as 50.
We had a few strong members who were working hard in their leadership positions to bring others to Christ.

Then one evening, I received two phone calls.  The first was from the Primary President’s husband, who was not a member.  He said he his wife was no longer allowed to attend our church.
The second call, about 10 minutes later, was from the Relief Society President, asking to be released, and also asking that I not ask why.

In one night I went from having a really bad companionship and tough calling, to having a branch with no member leadership.

I cried.  I balled, and begged and pleaded and told God “I don’t know what to do.  I can’t do this.  You must.”

It was the first time I really truly thought to myself.  I’m not enough.  I cannot succeed in this.  All my talents, and knowledge, and scripture reading, and spiritual experiences, and training, and manual reading, and personality, and language study and everything – is not enough.  I have tried as hard as I can and I have done everything I can, and I can’t do this. 

Savior, stay this night with me;
Lone will be the night If I cannot commune with thee nor find in thee my light.
Savior, stay this night with me; Or the darkness of the world, I fear, would in my home abide.

Isaiah told us that Christ has been there: “Surely he hath born our griefs and carried our sorrows”

Christ felt it all. Literally.  He has felt everything we feel.  Christ never sinned.  But when He was in Gethsemane hH wasn't imagining what sin and guilt and shame would feel like.  He wasn't feeling sorry for us. He felt all of it for real.  He experienced all our sorrows, exactly as we feel them.

I believe that.

I believe that Christ knows what it’s like to be abused, to be insulted in front of his entire school.  He knows what it’s like to sin so terribly that he could never tell another soul.
He knows what it’s like to be addicted.  Can you see that?  Can you see him in Gethsemane, suddenly experiencing pornography addiction? Knowing all the shame and guilt and hiding and lying and self berating and everything?

Christ has been hooked on every drug, committed every sin, and felt the lifelong repercussions of every one of those choices. 

When Joseph Smith was in the Liberty Jail and he had reached his lowest point, he asked:
“O God, where art thou? And where is the pavilion that covereth thy hiding place? How long shall thy hand be stayed… how long shall they suffer these wrongs and unlawful oppressions, Remember thy suffering saints.”
He was told: “The Son of Man hath descended below them all. Art thou greater than he?”
Christ has been “lower” than any of us.  He has been lower than all of us combined. 
And what does he tell us: “Draw near unto me and I will draw near unto you; seek me diligently and ye shall find me; ask, and ye shall receive; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.

How many times have we been invited to Come unto Christ?

I looked through the Book of Mormon and couldn’t count them all, but here are a few:

(Alma 5:33–34). “Behold, he sendeth an invitation unto all men, for the arms of mercy are extended towards them, … Yea, he saith: Come unto me and ye shall partake of the fruit of the tree of life”
(Morm. 6:17). Come, for he stands “with open arms to receive you”
(Jacob 3:1).Come, for “he will console you in your afflictions, and he will plead your cause”
(Omni 1:26). “Come unto him, and offer your whole souls as an offering unto him”

We are told over and over again to Come Unto Christ. That’s the whole message of the Book of Mormon.
Nephi starts the book and says: “We talk of Christ, we rejoice in Christ, we preach of Christ, we prophesy of Christ, and we write according to our prophecies, that our children may know to what source they may look for a remission of their sins.”
A thousand years later, after Christ has come, taught, and mostly been forgotten, the last Nephite is being chased down to be killed.  He’s the last prophet, and he knows that he has the only scriptural record of their existence in his hands, and he is running, and hiding, knowing any day he could be killed.  And what does he add to the book?
He asks us to read the book.  Pray and know that it’s true.  Then in the last 5 verses: “I would exhort you that ye would come unto Christ… And awake, and arise from the dust…Yea, come unto Christ, and be perfected in him, and deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and if ye shall deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and love God with all your might, mind and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you.”


You’ve been in the darkness?  So have I.  So has Joseph Smith.  So has Paul, and Job, and Alma and millions more.

“Come unto me” he says: “All ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Decide today to Come Unto Christ.
 
First – Believe, or just hope to believe.
Second - make the decision to do something to obey Him.  Pick some small thing you can do, and do it today.
Third - strive to bring others to him.  Try to do unto others as He would do.

You’re a sinner?  You’re unworthy?
He said “They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick…I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.”
Come unto Christ so that you may feel like singing:
Thy earnest words have filled my soul and kept me near thy side.
O Savior stay this night with me, behold Tis Eventide’

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE.


Responsibility.

Agency.

Accountability.

There is only one person responsible.  One person accountable.  One person who gets to choose.

YOU.

If you are the teacher – you are responsible.  Teach your students.  Adapt.  Change. Make it work, Get through.  Deal with kids and parents and systems and administrators and everything that might impede your way, and get it done.

If you are the student – you are responsible.  Learn.  If your parents don’t support you and your teacher is terrible and ignores you and the school is in shambles and gangs are rampant – make it work.  Get your education.  Learn.

If you are the parent – you are responsible.  Just like the child. Just like the boss.  Just like the employee. Just like the President, the Senator, the City Councilman, the voter.  Just like everyone.

Agency is amazing.  YOU CAN CHOOSE.  You can make a difference.  You cannot control others, you can control yourself – and how you influence others – so do it.  Make it work.  Decide what you want in life and make it so.

Blame is not important unless you’re an elected judge.  Blame and shame and finger pointing and excuses make us feel better temporarily, but they don’t improve anything.  They only delay the inevitable.

BE THE CHANGE.

Saturday, September 5, 2015

I Am Not The Most Physically Attractive Man My Wife Has Ever Seen

Seriously.
My wife likes men who are tall, dark and handsome.
I am short, pasty white, and bald.

I like women with long blond curly hair.
My wife has brown hair, and keeps it completely straight, and currently short.

If I look back at the girls I dated in high school and college and consider who I found the most attractive physically, it was the girls about 2 inches shorter than me with big blue eyes like a Disney Princess and long flowing blonde curls.  I knew the body type I liked, the eye and hair color, the style of clothes, everything.  Wow – when I saw a girl that had all that, I was hooked.  That’s who I noticed in crowds, choir concerts, and classes – the Disney Princess. That's who I dated.  Seriously! Two of my high school girlfriends went on to work for Disney in their theme parks.  I LITERALLY dated Disney Princesses!

When I met my wife my tastes hadn’t changed.  I doubt they’ve changed now. I’m betting the same is true for her.  She sees other men who are more physically attractive than I am.

Sure I try to stay in shape, but I'm still short and bald and not very muscular.

I work hard, I laugh, I sing, I serve others, I try to be the best version of me.  I try to continually improve, be more of who I want to be, who God wants me to be, and who my wife wants me to be.

But I will never be the physical specimen that turns heads.  I can be fit, in shape, well dressed and smiling, and still my wife is going to find Brad Pitt or George Clooney or some other man more physically handsome.

That’s okay.

That’s more than “okay”, that‘s the way it is. That’s reality.

STOP PRETENDING.

Stop telling your kids that your wife has the most gorgeous looks of anyone in the whole world and you’ve never even looked at another woman.

Your wife may be the most attractive woman to you.  You would rather be with her than with any other woman.  You chose her, and you would choose her again, everyday, for the rest of eternity.

Tell your kids that looks DO matter, but they are one factor only.  There is intelligence, humor, spirituality, ambition, kindness, appreciation, flexibility, determination.

I am not the most intelligent, the funniest, the most spiritual, the most ambitious, the kindest, or the most ANYTHING man in the world.

But I am the most attractive man in the world to my wife, because my combination of traits is what she likes the best. (she told me so)

I think the same of her. She is not my purely physical ideal (a Disney Princess).  She is my whole package ideal.

My Junior year of college I dated a few girls, but there was one girl I really REALLY wanted to date.  She had a boyfriend, and I didn’t care.  I told her: “I am better than your boyfriend, and when you realize that and break up with him, call me.” (humble I know)

Then I met the woman I would marry.  It took six weeks of flirting to get her to finally say yes to a date.  Then I asked her out nearly every single night for months. 
Then I asked her to marry me, to be my one and only.  She said Yes.

THEN – the girl I had really REALLY wanted to date from before called.  She said “I broke up with my boyfriend, you wanna go out?”

I immediately said no. 
Then I had a thought, and I sat down and literally made a list of every girl I had dated or ever wanted to date.  Every movie star or singer or woman I could possibly think of who I was attracted to in some way.
I went through the list one by one.  If that woman called and said she was interested in me and wanted to date me or possibly marry me – would I break up with my fiancĂ©e?

Is there anyone in this world I would ever want more than the woman I was engaged to?

No.
That re-affirmed what I already knew.



I do care about looks.  Yes, I care about physical attraction.  I ALSO care about spiritual and emotional and intellectual attraction.  My wife attracts me in all those ways.  And she attracts me more than any other person.
There is no one I would rather be with than her.


So.  Be honest with your kids. Don’t set up unrealistic and unhealthy expectations in their minds.

If your spouse isn’t the best violinist in the world, why would you lie to your kids and tell them otherwise? 
I like violin music, I’m “attracted” to it.  Sure, if my wife played the violin, that would be awesome.  (BONUS!) But I won’t pick my wife based on her being the best violinist in the world.

Just like I won’t pick my spouse based on her being the most physically attractive woman in the world.

I love my wife.  I love her looks.   

Don’t tell your kids that looks don’t matter.  Don’t tell them that looks are ALL that matter either.

Tell them the truth.  Tell them what’s real. 

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Book Review: The Martian


Grade: A+

This book is a genius thriller.  Pair excellent science with a hilarious astronaut, and it's irresistible. 

I mean it.  You can't believe how realistic the book is, and how the main character is always saying and thinking exactly what you would be.

This is not a spoiler, because you find this out on the first page - the book is about an American astronaut, Mark Watney, who gets stranded on Mars.

How do you survive on a planet in a research dome meant to last 30 days, when no one will be back for 4 years?

The twists and turns are unexpected and realistic.  The author didn't make up crazy things, he just studied mars really REALLY well to know what would naturally happen. 

There is a caveat to my recommendation.  There is a good amount of language in this book.  When a man thinks he's gonna die alone on another planet - he swears!  Mark Watney is the guy you want to be best friends with and invite over to BBQs at your house.  He is smart, funny, creative, down to earth, and just irreverent enough to make you laugh out loud over and over again.

You've been warned, and you've been also been teased with the promise of an amazingly awesome, fast paced, believable thriller.

Enjoy!

(and read it before the movie with Matt Damon comes out)