I'm a doctor. I should label a disease, Schizophrenia. I should not label a person. A schizophrenic.
We put people into groups, classes, designations.
I try to follow
the advice of the Arbinger
Institute when they said “Don’t
lump the people you’re thinking about into an impersonal mass. Think of
individuals…Think of the people.”
It’s a problem I have every day. I’m a psychiatrist, and every day I am asked to label people. I am asked to diagnose them and treat them. Patient #1 has Schizophrenia, #2 has Borderline Personality Disorder, etc… It’s very easy to change and say Patient #1 IS Schizophrenic, #2 IS Borderline.
It’s a problem I have every day. I’m a psychiatrist, and every day I am asked to label people. I am asked to diagnose them and treat them. Patient #1 has Schizophrenia, #2 has Borderline Personality Disorder, etc… It’s very easy to change and say Patient #1 IS Schizophrenic, #2 IS Borderline.
It’s easy to “stop seeing them as people and just see them
as a diagnosis. If I can do that then I can stop worrying about them, and
their lives, and their feelings. I can treat their stated symptoms and go
home. I don’t have to worry about their visitors, their comfort, their
real needs or anything. This way is easier. It’s simpler. I could just
slap a label on them and go home.
Some therapists would tell me to never use the word
“patient” but rather “client.”
I still use the term patient because I think mental illness
is an illness. I don’t think my patients
are illnesses, I think they have illnesses,
I once read a book called “Crucial Conversations”
The author said “Labeling is putting a label on people or ideas so we can dismiss
them under a general stereotype or category… By employing a handy label, we are
now dealing not with a complex human being, but with a bonehead.”
I still make this mistake with
people every day. I am a conservative independent, which means I usually
agree with the republicans and disagree with the democrats – I’m just sick of
political parties so I refuse to be a republican.
When one of my facebook friends wrote a post about “Plan B” for birth control, my autopilot conservative mind kicked – yep, that’s abortion, that’s murder, that’s wrong. The friend posting must be a bleeding heart liberal. She probably has never stopped to consider any opinion other than her own. She must be blinded by her partisan and left wing ideation. To quote the book – she must be “a bonehead.”
I labeled her. I discounted
her as a “liberal” and that meant I no longer had to consider anything she said
as “valid.” She was part of an “extreme” group, and everything about her
must be wrong, tainted, misled, etc… Forget the fact that she is one of
the smartest people I knew in High school, she is now an OB/GYN, she is well
read and stays current, and one of the most caring people I know. Luckily she did
not instantly label me as a bonehead conservative. She took time, assumed I was an intelligent
human being, and she explained her views, and the reasoning behind it. My viewpoint changed. Not only did my
view of the subject change, but my view of her changed. She was once
again a person, not a “bonehead liberal.”
It goes beyond politics. This labeling and dismissing happens
everywhere
In the book The Anatomy of Peace, the authors state: "Lumping everyone of a particular race
or culture or faith into a single stereotype is a way of failing to see them as
people…we have a propensity to demonize others. One way we do this is by
lumping others into lifeless categories – bigoted whites, lazy blacks, crass
Americans, arrogant Europeans, violent Arabs, manipulative Jews, and so
on. When we do this we make masses of unknown people into objects and
many of them into our enemies."
Do those labels sound like
presidential politics to anyone else? I hear labels like: Socialist, Rich
snob, Flip-Flopper, Baby-killer, Flaming Liberal, fascist, Tax-evader,
Communist, Right Wing Hack, etc…
"Let's tell people he's not
American." "Let's tell people she's not Christian."
- It seems all the political parties want to do is find a label that
scares people, then make it stick to the other side’s candidate.
Labels and stereotypes are killing us. They allow us to ignore people, to write them off. They allow us to dehumanize everyone who doesn’t agree with us.
Labels and stereotypes are killing us. They allow us to ignore people, to write them off. They allow us to dehumanize everyone who doesn’t agree with us.
We must see people as people, anything less is just plain wrong.
I was born male, I was born white, and 75 years after I was born, I’ll be Old.
Suddenly, by being born, I just became the enemy of some of my democratic friends: and Old White Man. The evil overlord of politics and business and religion, an old white male.
It is true that I will be an old white man. But I will not JUST be an old white man. I will be so much more, in every possible way. You cannot know who I am by knowing my race, my religion, my birthplace, or even my diagnosis.
Ever heard people say “She’s so Bipolar, He’s ADD, She’s Borderline, He’s Schizophrenic, She’s Anorexic, He’s OCD, she’s an addict?
That doesn’t sound like labeling problems to be fixed. That sounds like labeling people, because they ARE the problem, so we can dismiss them.
What did President Obama see when campaigning across the country 8 years ago?
He said: “Spend time actually talking to Americans, and you discover that most evangelicals are more tolerant than the media would have us believe, most secularists are more spiritual. Most rich people want the poor to succeed, and most of the poor are both more self-critical and hold higher aspirations than the popular culture allows.”
So that’s Step One: Label Things, Not People. That’s our job. To notice how many times we label people, even if it’s only in our heads. Then work to see them as a complex individuals, not a stereotype.
